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Desperate times and desperate measures

thegirlinthecafe

What a weird time we are living in. Suddenly the world is upside down, we have to work from home, cinemas are closed and we have to stay away from people. To fight the anxiety I suddenly felt the need to brush off my blog and start writing again. It has been a really long time since I last updated it, and let’s face it the last couple of updates haven’t been great…

But first of all, I hope you are all safe and well. I am ok, typing this at home on a Thursday evening, having a cup of tea the milky way listening to Jamie Cullum singing about the Age of Anxiety. Proper title for the time we live in. The two Jamie concerts I was supposed to go to this year are both cancelled unfortunately but I am sure I’ll see him again at some point.

I am quite anxious about the whole situation we are in. I try to not check Corana news 24 hours a day, I read up on the most important news just once a day. The good thing about this whole situation is that not only are we at home, but everybody is at home. Also some of the people I really like. And they are broadcasting stuff, from their homes into the world. Which is often very entertaining, and it makes you forget anxiety for a little while.
I made a list of the things I find noteworthy, maybe you like some of it.

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Tinder: 10 tips for better profile pictures

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OK, I know what you are going to say. You are going to say – OMG are you on Tinder? (If you have been living under a rock – Tinder is a hugely popular online dating app.) Well let me put this a little in perspective – I recently spoke with some people about Tinder. Not that we are seriously looking for dates (or maybe some of us are) but the popularity of this app is intriguing me so I had to check it out. Just a little warning – if you want your self-confidence diminished in no time – Tinder is for you.

Tinder is highly focusing on what you look like (no luck there then) – and you can either swipe people to the left (meaning: you might be a lovely guy but nah – let’s not meet) or to the right (oh you look alright – shall we have tea?). In this fast-moving world we live in now this is the way to judge or getting judged. So if you are into Tinder there is no need to emphasize the importance of a proper profile picture.

After some Tinder experimenting – checking profile pictures have been entertaining to say the least but mostly for the wrong reasons. So people of the Tinderverse – let me share a few tips regarding profile pictures with you.

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2016 in numbers

2016 in numbers – or how to make sense of your personal data

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Here is a little disclaimer for this post:

  1. <nerd alert on>
  2. This has become a bit of a long post … don’t say I did not warn you
  3. And I am not a designer – so this is not pixel perfect. But for this purpose it is good enough for me. If you look very carefully you’ll probably spot some pixels that aren’t completely aligned but then I am not a designer. I hacked this together in Google Draw, it’ll have to do. I’ll try to explain how I gathered all the data.

1. Cycling to work

This shows the number of times I have cycled to work this year. In order to automatically track this I created an IFTTT recipe which gets triggered on my phone  when I pass a certain location on my route to work. I can only pass this spot on bicycle and will only pass it when I cycle to the office, so this works fine for me. IFTTT logs this in a Google sheet, so the only thing I need to do at the end of the year is check how often this is logged.

So I cycled to work 105 times this year.

  • (Since I am also tracking when it rains (as you do…)) – I only had to cycle 5 time through rain. This is only 4,7% of the time (quite amazing when you think about it).
  • 105 cycle trips to work have saved me about €220 in gasoline and has also saved me from the stress and frustration of standing in traffic jams during rush hour.
  • It hasn’t saved me from some serious bruises though, as it turned out that taking a turn on a frozen cyclepath makes you fall flat on your face… (be careful cycling in the wintertime is the lesson here).

And finally, here is a graph (click for larger version) showing how much I cycled per month. (from the last 4 years). Seems like I finally figured out this year that I can cycle to work in the fall/winter too. Let’s see if we can tackle the spring too in 2017.

Cycle stats
Cycle stats

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Hologram for the King

6 movies to get you through your Christmas weekend

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Christmas time is not my favourite time of the year, I am always glad when we enter January again and we can all get back to normal. But there are ways to get through December – watching some appropriate Decembery movies is one of them. Of course there are the obvious Xmas movies getting repeated every year (Love Actually, Home Alone etc.) but here is a list of 6 movies which are repeated a bit less but definitely worth seeing:

Dan in Real life
I know I have seen this move about a dozen times now (yesterday again actually) but I never get tired of it. Steve Carell and Juliette Binoche are great together. When I saw this film I immediately crushed on Steve Carell and discovered what a great actor he is (also in more serious movies).

Dan: It might be wrong – but there is a certain rightness to our wrongness.

Last Chance Harvey
Dustin Hofman and Emma Thompson are great together in this last chance for romance for Harvey film. If they can make it – we all can – can’t we? Oh, and set in lovely London …

Harvey: Should I take that as a hopeful sign?

Serendipity
This one is a bit older but still a classic – what if you left meeting the love of your life again to chance? (Oh and John Cusack…)

Sara: You don’t have to understand. You just have to have faith.
Jonathan: Faith in what?
Sara: Destiny

Lost in Translation
Has been around for quite a while too, but can always be watched again, because who can forget (and get over) the ending. And the Awesome Bill Murray will make you fall on love with him.

Bob: I don’t want to leave.
Charlotte: So don’t. Stay here with me. We’ll start a jazz band.

At Middleton
This is probably the least known film of this list, but I saw it last year and was pleasantly surprised. Who knew Andy Garcia could be this sweet? Liked it – you might too.

George Hartman: I’m a cardiac surgeon. I was speaking with a patient.
Edith Martin: Hmm, so you can fix a heart over the phone?
George Hartman: Depends on the data plan.

Hologram for the King
And last but not least, the lovely Tom Hanks is always worth watching. This is a sweet story about trying to figure out your life in a different environment. Has nothing whatsoever to do with Xmas but I recommend it anyway!

Alan Clay: What do you think of this?
Zahra: You and me, the big culture clash? We are separated by the thinnest filament.
Alan Clay: Well, that’s the way I think.
Zahra: That’s the way it is.

 

 

Film: Nocturnal Animals – (8/10)

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This second film from Tom Ford is a bit of a slow starter but don’t worry about that, it will quickly grab you by your shirt and won’t let you go until you have left the cinema. This is one very beautifully shot and stylish (of course) film that is going to stay with you for a while.
I highly recommend you to watch it, if only for great performances from Amy Adams and Jack Gyllenhaal and the beautiful stylistic scenes.

Oh and nocturnal, I had to look it up!

Plot: An art gallery owner is haunted by her ex-husband’s novel, a violent thriller she interprets as a veiled threat and a symbolic revenge tale.

Nocturnal Animals has an IMDB Rating of 8, which is exactly what I would rate it too.

Nocturnal Animals trailer

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Bored is boring – the 2016 edition

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You know you are bored when:

  • None of the 352 songs on your Spotify “Happy” (the name of the playlist alone for crying out loud …) playlist seem worth listening to.
  • You start reading the mails in your spam filter…
  • You check your watch too often. And because you can’t believe that only this few minutes have passed since you last checked it, you check the clock on your mobile phone as well. Only few minutes had passed indeed.
  • You keep making cups of tea, even though you are not really thirsty because you already too much tea.
  • You keep eating sweets, even though they are nearly coming out of your nose.
  • You make lists of things you do when you are seriously bored.

Now this list is very appropriate for the day I am having – but a little bit of browsing through my archives I found this one:
from 2007. It is kind of shocking to see that nearly 10 years later – too little has changed. I need to make some serious plans for 2017.